13 October 2025

nevertheless ... 선 Sails




[video text]
"
just a millenial korean-adoptee
here
surviving the current of the Time Tide
as it pulls me through
my last adoption day
before i turn forty

i lived with my birth family
until i was three
&when i lived with them
i was called 선 or 'Sun'

my birth name

at nearly four
i 'hit that jackpot'
&arrived on Empire
&my adopted family renamed me
Tiffany
&my adopted family
calls my adoption day
'Tiffany Day'

I HATE 'TIFFANY DAY'

my adopted family
always made a big deal of it
but i just wanted to hide

the me i was
died that day
&nobody explained to me
why Sun had to die
in order for me to be Tiffany

&so
for me
'Tiffany Day' is an anniversary
of MY FIRST SELF'S DEATH

my korean self

not a fun celebration

not a party centering my tragedy

instead
it's a reminder that
whoever Sun was
she wasn't good enough

Sun was never invited
into her adopted parents home

Sun was never accepted
by her adopted family

Sun didn't matter

until She did

i decided
to bring Sun back to life
a little over two years ago

&it requires a lot of courage
to live as Sun

the person nobody wanted

the person who never mattered

but onward Sun Sails ...

... nevertheless.

"