There's only ONE simple, easy, no-brainer-type litmus test to answer the question:
Is she a "good" or "bad" white woman of economic privilege?
Is she a "good" or "bad" white woman of economic privilege?
(ALL White women [capital-W White] fall immediately into the "bad" camp)
IS SHE A TEACHER?
When we think of white women, we automatically think "privilege," and this is only true to some extent, because at the end of the day, we are all Human, first, and being Human is no walk in the park, even for the well-endowed (financially or otherwise), and so, how do we, as Globeaux Women, quickly (&easily) sort the lot? And we're, of course, speaking to one-type of privilege, economic privilege, as opposed to racial/sexual/body-type, etc., etc., etc.
If you think of what it means to be a privileged white woman, it means that you have a lot of resources, which means that you have a lot of money, which means that you have a lot of Time, and so, what is she doing with all that "big Time" and money?
Is she spending it on herself or others?
Is she investing it in herself or others?
Is she creating or consuming?
Yes, we can judge these women. We can judge all women of privilege, especially if they're a fraud, lol.
&So, for me, this is the quickest and easiest way to sort privileged white women, is she a teacher?
If the answer is "yes," then let her be.
If the answer is "no," well, now she falls into some camp wherein you must now do the work to determine her placement in your "roster of white women who get it," etc. I don't do that sorta work; I hit it and quit it with my one yes/no question. I do not fuck around with white women who make me do the work of figuring out who they are.
For instance, Martha Stewart is a teacher, first and foremost. AND DO NOT FORGET IT!
Alison Smith, the woman who wrote The Sewing Book that I use for my own sewing instruction, is a privileged white woman, and she teaches. (I do not know her history or her story, so whether or not her privilege was born into or truly earned through her skills and hard work is beyond me, but it hardly matters, because the argument I'm making here is that she is privileged, now, and she teaches.)
But where do I fit into all of this privilege?
I, obviously, was not born into privilege, but I certainly am privileged in the sense that I was "homed," like a kitten in a shelter, lol, and the people who took me in were essentially privileged by the mere color of their skin and the "normalcy" of their sexual preferences.
But what about me?
At what point am I privileged, as an orphaned Globeaux and Woman?
Orphan - not privileged
Globeaux - not privileged
Woman - "not privileged" but only by the standards of meager men
But I have money and Time.
So what am I?
&It's so perfectly fitting that this would come up today, because this topic had already come up for the bodybuddy/lifemate and I earlier in the day, when we were discussing The Gift (the present that he got me for tiffany day that has transformed tiffany day, forever, because now it is Tiffanys day, which means that I'm expected to expect something from Tiffany's on tiffany day, from now on), and how I'm going to "deal with it" with regards to my messaging on the internet (&the conflicts within the relationship between internal/external perceptions of sharing [proving yourself] vs. fraud [having no proof] vs. bragging [gauche displays of wealth] that arise when rising), and quite frankly, the answer was obvious:
Sail on.
And then I popped on socials, like one is wont to do when navel gazing like a privileged Artist, and Journey, my yoga teacher &beginner of all things that none of us are privileged enough to even know to start, posted. And she asked the question:
&I realized that I DO enough
for the collective
¬-enough for ME
&I've been okay with that
for far too long.
Thank you, Antoinette, as always, for everything <3
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